The other day I had a shock. I went to get a pedicure and there right in the next chair was my nine-year-old grandson getting a pedicure, too. His mother, my daughter-in-law, was sitting next to him and it turns out it was her idea!
Dear AskNelly: Grandson's Pedicure
I thought she'd lost her mind. What kind of example was she setting? And won't the kids laugh at him in school? I called my son from the ladies' room and he asked me not to say anything about it, but I really want to tell her that this is no way to raise a boy to be a man. What should I do? — Desperate in Dallas
Here's a piece of advice my mother gave me when my son got married. "Never give your daughter-in-law unsolicited advice and never criticize her." You won't convince your daughter-in-law that she's wrong and you will run the risk of alienating her. This will be bad for your son, bad for their marriage, and may well end in your seeing a lot less of all of them, including your grandson. Besides, you could always be wrong. Maybe it's just the new thing all the fourth graders are doing in his school. Probably it's a temporary fad which, left alone, will fade from mind long before the hurt feelings from an unpleasant scene with your daughter-in-law can be repaired. — AskNelly