Question: My oldest daughter is getting married. Her dad and I are divorced and it's important to her that both of us be at the wedding. My ex says he won't come unless he can bring his fiance.
Dear AskNelly: Wedding Dilemma
She's the woman he left me for and I really don't want to have to meet her. My younger daughter who is the maid of honor says she won't come if daddy brings "that woman." Both my daughters are equally adamant. Should I go to the wedding to support my oldest daughter or follow my heart and stay home with the younger one? — Ellen, Topeka KS
Your daughters' wishes may be equally adamant but they are not of equal importance. Her wedding is the bride's special day. Her feelings must come first, and you should honor her natural desire to have both her parents and her sister present as graciously as you can. I would counsel your younger daughter to focus on her love for her sister rather than her anger with her father. The last thing you'd want your daughter to remember from her wedding day is her mother's empty chair. — AskNelly