Nearly every woman can have a sex life, regardless of age or marital status. Often, outdated ideas are all that stand in her way.
Sex After Menopause
“Menopause was the end of sex for me. It really hurt.”
Menopause does mean an accelerated loss of estrogen, which can lead to a thinner, drier vagina and painful intercourse. This problem, however, can be addressed with lubricants, estrogen-based creams and/or prescription meds (see your primary doctor or gynecologist). More foreplay also helps because blood moves more slowly to the genitals as we age, but a little patience can overcome all.
Surprisingly, a study of older women that appeared in the January 2012 issue of The American Journal of Medicine, concluded that sexual satisfaction can increase with age. A majority of study participants reported frequent arousal and orgasm that continued into old age, despite low general sexual desire. In fact, women under 55 and over 80 reported a higher frequency of orgasm than did women between the ages of 56 - 79.
“My husband used to get aroused watching me undress. Now he falls asleep.”
As men age, they, too, may require longer, more physical stimulation to become aroused—even with Viagra and other anti-impotence aids. This should be viewed as an opportunity to indulge in more kissing, touching and other pleasures of physical closeness. Instead of limiting your ideas of sex to the act of intercourse, you can begin to enjoy the entire range of physical intimacy as a sexual experience, even if actual intercourse doesn’t occur. Of course it’s always important to keep the lines of communication open so that you and your partner can be aware of changing tastes and needs.
"I'm a 73-year-old widow--It's too late for romance."
You're in for a pleasant surprise. Today people in their 60s, 70s, and 80s are romancing as never before, thanks to three developments: The sexual revolution of the '60s and '70s; the improved health and vitality of older men and women; the advent of internet dating . Just put your name and photo out there, and you may be surprised at the response. For an updated list of the top consumer-rated dating services, check out topconsumerreviews.com.
"My husband is 80. He's lost interest in sex, but I haven't."
How about a vibrator? Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale University School of Medicine and author of The Yale Guide to Women's Reproductive Health (2006), recommends the use of vibrators for her middle-aged and older female patients who aren't sexually active. One of her goals is to help women realize that vibrators aren't something to be embarrassed about. In addition to giving pleasure, vibrators help maintain the health of the vagina which must be exercised to remain in good condition. Vibrators can be bought in chain stores such as Walgreens, Walmart, and Target, and stores that specialize in sexual assistance products.
If buying a vibrator and learning how to use it doesn’t appeal to you, you can try masturbation. Practicing masturbation techniques can help you achieve the same goals as a vibrator—sexual pleasure plus improved health and function in your clitoris, urethra and vagina.
"The only reason for sex is to create new life."
Today, medical science can add a few more reasons. Recent research suggests at least ten potential health benefits to be gained from an active sex life at any age:
1. Relieves stress
2. Lowers blood pressure
3. Boosts immunity
4. Provides exercise
5. Burns calories
6. Improves cardiovascular health
7. Reduces pain
8. Reduces prostate cancer risk
9. Strengthens pelvis floor muscles
10. Helps you sleep better
This article has been reviewed by Patricia Bloom MD and Harrison Bloom MD, authors of the recently published book: Get Up and Move Your A**! A Light-Hearted But Serious Guide to Successful Aging. For more information, go to www.doctorsbloom.com.
For more information:
• everydayhealth.com - sexual health
• everydayhealth.com - masturbation
• webmd.com - sexual relationships
• mayoclinic.org - vaginal dryness
• asknelly.com - dating
• everydayhealth.com - sex and aging
• sandardinnovation.com - vibrators
• medicalnewstoday.com - sexual satisfaction
• topconsumerreviews.com - senior dating